Do you feel as if your life is in limbo?
Limbo is defined as an uncertain period of awaiting a decision or resolution or an intermediate state or condition. It’s an interval of time which makes you feel stalled. In one area or another you are unable to take any action because you are waiting on the decision of another or for some event that needs to occur first. While this can be frustrating and is a lesson in patience, what about when your whole life feels like it’s in limbo?
It’s one thing to be waiting on a decision such as whether your child was accepted into a certain college or waiting to hear back from your employer about vacation days you put in for before you can buy your airline tickets, but it’s a whole other thing when you feel your whole life is in limbo.
Many of us have gone through, or will go through, periods of time in our lives when we will have to let go of the old and leave behind what is familiar, whether by choice or circumstance, without knowing what lies ahead. We may not even know exactly where we are headed or what’s around the corner. In other words, we will be neither here nor there.
I often Coach clients who feel as if their life is in limbo, so understand that you are not alone. When you feel your are in a state of limbo, it may appear as if nothing is happening in your life or you don’t know where you are going, while in reality what is happening is that there are tremendous internal shifts occuring. It’s a state of being that can cause feelings of confusion, uncertainty, chaos, and anxiety, and if misunderstood can make you feel as if there is something wrong with you.
What is happening is that your old self no longer fits with who are you are becoming. What seems to be a state of limbo, is in actuality a spiritual journey and it can only be navigated by surrending into the “not knowing.” It’s about learning to be ok with vulnerability, letting go of control, and trusting your interior guide.
When you are experiencing a state of limbo, try to let go of worry and stop berating yourself, rather step back and take a long, hard look at what it is trying to tell you. Don’t keep beating your head against the wall by forcing yourself to move forward, instead surrender to the state of transition and go within.
First focus on soothing your energy and become calm and centered, then focus on gaining clarity by asking questions. Where might you need to be honoring or accepting yourself more? What would you love to do with your life? What is your soul seeking?
This time of transition can last for weeks, months, or even for over a year. Sometimes you feel a need to retreat, to rest more, or to find deeper connections. Honor your feelings and needs. By doing this you will make this necessary time of transition much easier and will gain great insights and clarity into what you will be doing in the future.
If you don’t honor your needs, your body will send you signs such as sudden back pain, injury, or illness to force you to slow down. You also will be blocking your access to your interior guide if you are trying to artificially force yourself to forge ahead. This is a time of self-examination. You may be re-evaluating everything in your life including relationships, your career, your beliefs, feelings, and values. It’s a time of letting go of the things that no longer serve you even though you may not have anything to “replace” them with at the time.
This state of limbo will not last forever and allowing yourself to be ok with not knowing everything is what will bring you to a state of authentic knowing. It’s a time that will open the doors to many new choices and possibilities. See it for what it is, a necessary part of your spiritual journey.
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