While it’s important to have people in your life who like you, it’s not a good sign if everyone likes you. Why? It’s because there is no possible way you can be living authentically and at the same time have everyone like you. If you tell me you can, you are not being honest with yourself.
Whenever you alter your behavior to fit in or please others, you are off of your path. My mentor shared this quote with me many years ago and I have never forgotten it, “what other people think of you is none of your business.” That quote forever changed the way I thought about other people’s opinions of me and stopped me from worrying about what someone else might be thinking or saying about me.
Your purpose in this lifetime is to be yourself, to remain true to yourself, and to find your soul’s purpose. You can’t do this if you are forever walking on eggshells trying to please others or worrying about what they might think about your life choices. Opinions are a dime a dozen and if you base your actions or don’t take action because you are afraid of what someone else might thing of you, then you are not being true to yourself.
Is there something you are interested in doing but are afraid of what others may think of you? Perhaps you are a medical doctor who is very interested in the metaphysical, but are afraid of what others may think if they find out. Look what it did for Deepak Chopra! The point is, no matter what you are interested in or how you want to live your life, you should do it.
If you have been a people pleaser for many years, you know that this behavior has held you back or taken you off your own path. I know how difficult it can be when you have become used to pleasing others and you don’t want to make any waves.
If you are struggling with this issue, here is a different perspective you can take when dealing with other people. Focus on serving people’s souls rather than their personalities. When your authentic actions are coming from your interior guide they won’t always please other people’s personalities. That’s ok, don’t let it concern you. When you are acting from your true self you have to let it be ok that not everyone will be happy with you or your actions. Stay focused on your higher purpose and as you do, know that serving your higher purpose is not only the best thing you can do for yourself but it is also the best way to make a difference in the world and to increase the vibration of everyone on the planet.
When you want to empower people, this is not the same thing as pleasing their personalities. Often it means doing things that will upset them such as setting proper boundaries or saying no to things you are not interested in. If others like you only when you’re doing what they want, this is not good for your soul’s highest purpose or theirs.
The most empowering thing you can do for someone else is stand up for yourself and follow your soul’s purpose. Be the example for them.
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